TCFP186: Lost Motivation
Thank you for listening to The Champion Forum Podcast with Jeff Hancher! In the pursuit of reaching your potential, there will be seasons when you lack motivation. Realize that this is normal and it is okay. It's not okay to stay unmotivated and settle for anything less than reaching your fullest calling in this life.
Leaders experience a heavy burden when they start to feel unmotivated. When this happens, your mind is giving you hints that something is wrong. The best thing to do is be honest about your feelings and what you need to do to move on.
Problem #1: You don't value yourself.
Evaluate your self-talk. Are you bitter? Do you consider yourself unworthy of something? Your self-talk will not only rob you of your motivation, but it will also kill your potential.
The Solution: The key to overcoming negative self-talk is identifying your limiting beliefs and writing them down. Once you write them down, replace the bad with the good and rewrite the thought.
Ex. "I can't do this." → "I can do this, I just need to figure out how."
"I don't deserve success." → "I will take what comes my way and use it for good."
Problem #2: Your WHY isn't big enough!
You likely have some answer as to why you are doing what you're doing, but is your answer strong enough or emotional enough? Your why may have been enough to get you started, but that was before you realized the cost. Things get complicated, and when they do, the easy thing to do is to justify quitting.
The Solution: Don't quit! Start fighting for what matters to you. Ask yourself, why did I start? If your answers are weak, then your why isn't big enough. Write down why you are doing what you're doing, and don't stop until you arrive at something that will drive you. It doesn't matter how big or small it is; there has to be a compelling reason to keep going.
Problem #3: The Goal Intimidates You
The risk with setting big goals is getting stuck on how to move forward. This leads to procrastination, at best, and, at worst, a loss of motivation and quitting because it doesn't even seem possible or realistic.
It is critical when you feel this lack of motivation hit because a goal is too big and overwhelming to look at the audacious goal and put it into a structure of small tasks and reasonable deadlines. You will find it much easier to keep on moving forward. List all of your established tasks and see if they are small enough. Determine whether you have set yourself up to fail by using an incorrect structure. Remember that small wins will help you build momentum!
Problem #4: You Lack Support
When you feel defeated, like giving up, or questioning yourself, take a good audit of your environment. Who you allow to speak into your life is a huge predictor of success and a big reason people are unsuccessful. If you surround yourself with negative, cynical people, you will adopt their mindset and turn pessimistic and cynical too.
The Solution: Surround yourself with positive, successful people. Determine what elements in your environment demotivate you. Remove those elements and replace them with motivators. Find people who will encourage and challenge you. Draw healthy boundaries around what you will allow other people to say to you and what you will let yourself think about.
Stay Patient! Practice gratitude for what you already have. Realize that success is a marathon and not a sprint. Your consistency will eventually lead to the success you are looking for!
If you are currently feeling unmotivated, work through each of these points and their solutions one by one. Be honest with yourself about how you are currently feeling and what it would take to move forward.
Evaluate your priorities. Sometimes everything can be going right, but we still feel tension. This may be because your priorities or goals have changed and you have not adjusted your lifestyle. Take a time to discuss your priorities with your family, recognize areas of tension, and come up with possible solutions.