Thank you for listening to the Champion Forum Podcast with Jeff Hancher! In this episode, Jeff interviews, best-selling author, keynote speaker, entrepreneur, and founder of Boss In Heels, Heather Monahan. She spent almost 20 years working in corporate America, earning a position as a Chief Revenue Officer. Since leaving corporate America in 2018, she has been named a Limit Breaking Female Founder in 2018, published two books, and delivered her first TedX Talk. Tune in to hear Jeff and Heather talk about dealing with opposition, developing your confidence, and standing out in the workplace. There’s no one way to help every person create confidence. Successful approaches to building confidence will vary from person to person and situation to situation. If you’re successful in any regard, the haters will come for you. “I didn’t know confidence was a choice. I thought it was something that other people were born with.” Change the way you talk Too many people apologize excessively. Instead of saying that you are sorry, change your words and focus on thanking the other people. For example, instead of saying “I’m sorry I’m late,” say, “Thank you for your patience. Let’s begin.” When you change your words, you are acknowledging other people and making the situation about you instead of about them. When you make negative comments about yourself, it hurts the way other people see you, even if you are joking or just trying to be “polite.” People will inevitably believe what you tell them. Be whoever you are, and don’t let other people put you in a box. You will never be your most successful leader if you are living to their standards. Live to your own. How can females develop confidence? Females report lower levels of confidence compared to males starting at 8 years old. Many people hurt their confidence by following people on social media that look perfect and like they have it all together. If that is harming you, unfollow people. Create a situation where you can thrive stop comparing yourself to other people. Many women in the workplace are sabotaging each other. You need to be aware and use your words to stop people from undercutting each other. Stand up for yourself and set boundaries on the way that you want other people to talk to you. The only way to get comfortable confronting people who cut you down is to practice it. Women will not be their most confident selves if they are p surrounding themselves with people who put their self-limiting beliefs on you. I realized that if I was going to start over and take a chance on something new, I might as well invest in myself. Life Balance Find purpose in what you do. Make time to work out or do something positive for you. Make time for your family. Find the things that fuel you and make the time for them. Whatever you are doing, be all in. Differentiate yourself You can stand out by solving problems by putting yourself in other people’s shoes. You make yourself more valuable when you look at problems across your organization and come up with solutions outside of your own department. Q: In the episode, Jeff and Heather talk about the difference between confidence and arrogance. What do you think? How can you be sure that you don’t cross the line and act arrogant? What do you do to build your confidence? Q: What does it mean to be yourself? How do you find the balance between using systems that work and paving your own path? How do you know whether you should imitate someone else or do your own thing? When should you give up on doing things your own way? How can you stay true to who you are while using another person’s system or perspective? Q: Have you ever seen a leader be vulnerable? What did they say or do? How did their vulnerability make you feel? Why do you think people are afraid to be vulnerable in the workplace? How do you think the workplace would be different if people were more willing to be vulnerable? How do you think it would impact your confidence? Application Activities
Go download Heather’s FREE ebook, 30 Days to a More Confident You HERE. Dedicate the 1st month of 2020 to developing your confidence; it will give you the boost you need to follow through on your resolutions for the new year.
Keep track of how many times you apologize over the next week. As soon as you can, write down what you said and how you could have responded instead. Challenge yourself to use your new wording the next time you are in a similar situation.
Take a moment to evaluate how confident you are. If you could increase your confidence, what do you think that you could accomplish? Take some time to brainstorm 3 things you would do if you felt more confident. After you finish Heather’s 30 day challenge, start working on accomplishing those goals! Make those goals a focus in your plans for 2020.
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DECEMBER 11, 2019